Psychotherapy & Counselling
Counselling is generally concerned with talking through life events, rites of passage and stages of life, loss and bereavement, and the mundane or extraordinary dilemmas that come up over the course of a life.
Psychotherapy is more concerned with abiding trauma and stuck or chronic recurring patterns of interpersonal and self relating; it is a process of becoming who you are.
To become aware that you're dreaming is to become lucid. In this sense dream life and waking life are the same; in both we dream up who we are, our reality, our perspectives, values, suffering and joy. In this sense life is a dream from which we never awake. The challenge is to 'wake up to ourselves' so that we become lucid in our waking lives.
Life tasks us with how to deal with, and get beyond the stress, fear and drama that is life. I enjoy helping people wake up and become lucid so that they can get beyond their preoccupations and become both engaged and engaging, and productive and creative.
Both counselling and psychotherapy start with a conversation about why you have come for therapy. It's not necessary to decide whether you want counselling or psychotherapy; the nature and extent of the issues generally suggest the direction of the work. In my experience all therapy starts out as counselling which might then develop into psychotherapy.
Counselling is generally shorter taking a matter of weeks, months or a few years; psychotherapy is generally longer. I see people both for short and long term. Unless otherwise contracted for, each session lasts 50 minutes. I usually see people once per week at the same time; greater frequency can be arranged upon request. I see people face to face, by telephone, Skype, FaceTime and Zoom. Weather permitting, and by arrangement, therapy sessions can take place while walking out in the sunshine.